Wednesday, April 27, 2011

The Shame Game

"If we want to live and love with our whole hearts, and if we want to engage with the world from a place of worthiness, we have to talk about the things that get in the way- especially shame, fear and vulnerability." (p. 45)
Well, crap. That doesn't sound so fun.


Monday, April 25, 2011

Beginning the Journey

So, I'm attempting to start this journey of Wholehearted living. I'm 3 chapters in to BrenĂ© Brown’s book The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embracing Who You Are. 

Her Introduction explains this idea:
"Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It's going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn't change the truth that I am also brace and worth of love and belonging."
Yeah. So.... That's not really me. Do I want it to be me? Good Lord , yes!

One of my biggest struggles is a sense of worthiness, which is directly connected with my intense struggle with shame. I beat myself up, and allow others to treat me as if I am somehow not enough, because I don't believe in my heart that I AM enough.

I am hoping that this journey will help me tear down my walls, hack away at the shame, and build up the worthiness.

I'm finishing the charter on "The Things That Get in the Way," and then will start getting into the Guideposts for Wholehearted living that she has created. We shall see... :-)

Friday, April 22, 2011

Keeping It Real

Authenticity... Vulnerability... Connectedness... tricky little things... at least for me. My counselor showed me this video last week. It kind of rocked my world.

 A friend also gave me an article called "Get Real: How to be Your Truest Self & Love Your Life." It was a really good article, but I suddenly felt like Someone was trying to send me a message.  ;-)

Further research of Brene Brown, has lead me to find her fascinating and inspirational. So, even though I didn't realize, this blog will (hopefully) become about the search for my authenticity. Which will, begrudgingly involve me becoming much more vulnerable, having courage, and working on connectedness. Stay tuned... this is gonna be a bumpy ride...